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The five P's for Fatherhood  1. Preside 2. Partner 3. To be Present 4. To Provide  5. To Protect  I decided to create a short interview with my dad, since I was home for Thanksgiving this week, to get his perspective about fatherhood. My dad is is a man of few words and he had just woken up from a nap when we did this so his answers may not fully display his whole opinions on each question but I got what I needed. 1. Question: What do you think are the main responsibilities as a father?     Answer: to provide for your family and to lead 2. Question: What do you think are some important qualities a good father should have?     Answer: Patience, patience and some more patience. That's about it. If you have that, you'll  probably be  fine.  3. Question: Who have been some good role models to you?     Answer: I don't know, my pops and different leaders that I have had  4. Question: Why is fatherhood so importan...

We communicate everyday whether we like it or not. We can communicate something even by not saying any words. There are three main types of communication that takes place during a normal conversation. The first being non-verbal communication. Non-verbal is so much of how we communicate with others. It sends more messages than just our words. It can convey emotions, accents, can be substituted for words, it can contradict or complement what we say among many other things. For example, when I say something like, "Please clean up after yourself," it can be conveyed in a polite way or in a mean way depending on tone, posture, facial expressions etc. So when we communicate over text or other types of media, it is hard to get the whole picture because we can't see so much of what the other person is trying to say. We cannot see their non-verbal messages and can cause a lot of misinterpretation and confusion. When we are communicating with someone there are two processes that ...

Make stress your friend. Stress only has a negative impact on those who think it is negative. We learn from stressful situations. We normally think of stress as an undesirable thing, but Coping: Making small, thoughtful adjustments to withstand problems Ineffective Coping patterns 1. Denial A defense mechanism where people do not believe what they are going through. 2. Avoidance Knowing that there is a problem, yet avoiding the confrontation to fix it. 3. Scapegoating Putting all of the blame on one person, who is usually the victim and thus further victimizes them. Effective Coping 1. Affirm your own and your family's worth Going through hard times can cause some serious self esteem issues with individuals and how families view themselves as a whole. It is hard to remember through the midst of trials and stress that you are worth more than what you are going through, 2. Take responsibility This means that  you will not deny or blame the problem but also not play t...

Coming into this topic, I thought it was going to be really uncomfortable because in society sex is a taboo topic, it is considered dirty and sinful. In almost every movie and television show that is out there refers to sex in some way. Society has sexualized physical intimacy. We are constantly bombarded by images, movies and themes that teach that sex is dirty. But when  it is taught in a way that makes it so it's a beautiful and sacred thing when it's between a husband and wife. Jeffery R. Holland states that a sexual union is"a welding ... in matrimony... [a] physical blending [symbolic of a] larger, more complete union of eternal purpose and promise... a symbol of total union... their hearts, their hopes, their lives, their love, their family, their future, their everything." When I think how much marital intimacy brings a husband and wife together as one it is purely astonishing. Husband and wife literally become one in flesh as well as all the other aspects th...

"Date them until you hate them" Every semester, I seem to have a roommate who wants to spend all of their time with their boyfriend. This makes it so that I don't have as much of a relationship with them and they don't have a relationship with any of the other girls in our apartment. I understand that there is an understanding that when you love a person you want to spend all of your time with them, but this comes at a price. In my observations which coincides with what Brother Williams taught about how people who do this, seem to not go on dates. They do homework together, watch movies, and maybe cook dinner together but they don't go out on dates as often. Dates are important because it helps the couple come closer to one another without spending all of their time together. When you spend every possible moment together, you may get annoyed with them and feel like you have no space anymore. In order to help couples avoid these kinds of situations, it's imp...

Everyone loooooves talking about dating, but how many people actually date. Sometimes its crazy to me when I see beautiful girls who tell me that they have never been on a date or they have been on one or two. Before this lesson, I was very pessimistic about dating and boys in general. My roommate and I swore off boys because we were both not getting any dates and the ones that we did go on were not good. Prior to swearing off boys, whenever I was asked on a date, I never said no because I know that rejection really hits your self esteem, but I wasn't asked on many. My second semester of college, my roommate would get so many dates that she did't even have time for a lot of them! That was discouraging to me because I went on a total of two dates that semester. One at the very beginning and one the week before finals. I felt left out all the time and it was really hard for me to deal with. I was jealous and confused. I began to doubt my self-worth, attractiveness and I began som...

This week in class we learned about cultures and how they shape families and family roles. The definition of a culture is the beliefs and attitudes of a social group.  I think that it is interesting that even in very traditional families there are cultures that have been passed down from generation to generation. For example, in my family, abuse was just a part of family life. There were a lot of problems that were caused by the abuse and it was passed down until my grandparents decided that they were going to end that cycle. That is just one example of the endless different cultures around the world. Cultures shape who we are as people. Without culture, we would all be the same. Without it we would all just be cookie cutters. Something that I think are good things that my family did was Sunday dinners, and camping. Every Sunday, almost without fail, we would always have the family eat together with missionaries often. It is a good thing to come together, talk about our week, wh...